In many ways, GRIT, RESILIENCE, and HARDINESS are more similar than not. If we were to differentiate, though, I’d say it this way:
- GRIT is what keeps you focused and helps you push through, notwithstanding the stress
- RESILIENCE is what helps you bounce back from a prior stress
- But HARDINESS is the ability to actually thrive before, during, and after – and notwithstanding – the stress
So while GRIT and RESILIENCE are obviously very important, if you want to maximize your efforts, work on increasing your level of HARDINESS.
Building Hardiness…or Not
Figure inspired by : The Hardy Executive, Salvador Maddi, Suzanne Kobasa
Think about it this way:
- CONTROL vs. POWERLESSNESS is created by
- Shifting from: Trying to Control What You Really Can’t
- To: Addressing What You Actually CAN Control
- CHALLENGE vs. OVERWHELM is created by
- Shifting from: Feeling Helpless and Dis-empowered
- To: Creating Healthy and Doable Challenges and Stretch Goals
- COMMITMENT vs. REFUSAL is created by
- Shifting from: Thinking, “It’s Too Hard, Why Bother?”
- To: Reconnecting with your Core Values and Beliefs
Doing so – even partially – will help you create a more optimistic (and less pessimistic) view and naturally shift from avoiding what’s stressing you (which only causes more stress) to taking action to resolve what’s stressing you sooner.
Which Begs the Following Questions…
- How might you have more CONTROL than you maybe realize?
- What’s the a ‘doable’ CHALLENGE inside the overwhelm you’re maybe feeling?
- And what is the larger COMMITMENT you’re working toward?
Try It For Yourself And See, Yes?
While grit is good, don’t just settle for being able to push through your challenges, regardless of its personal cost to you.
And while resilience is good, too, don’t just settle for being able to recover from stress.
Focus, instead on increasing your hardiness so that you can actually thrive before, during, and after – and notwithstanding – the stress.
For more, visit www.leadershiptraction.com/hardiness.