FEELS Good
Versus IS Good
Apr 17, 2015
02:26 pm
Ever notice
that what FEELS good,
in the moment,
isn’t always
what IS good,
long-term? And
what IS good,
long-term,
doesn’t always FEEL good,
in the moment?
(Think
exercising, not
eating (another)
piece of that
French Silk pie,
getting
organized,
paying the
bills, or any of
a variety of
household (or
workplace)
chores.)
The following
chart divvies
things up into
four classes: Class
1 –
that which feels
good, and is
good, too; Class
2 –
that which
doesn’t feel so
good, but
actually is good; Class
3 –
that which feels
good, but
actually isn’t so
good; and Class
4 –
that which
doesn’t feel so
good, and isn’t
so good, either.
Most of us
spend way too
much time in
Class 3 and 4,
and far too
little time in
Class 1 or 2.
How Much Time
Where?
-
Class 4 – spend
as little
time in
Class 4 as
absolutely
possible and
only as much
as is
absolutely
necessary.
-
Class 3 – while
better than
Class 4,
endeavor to
spend as
little time
in Class 3
as
absolutely
possible and
only as much
as is
absolutely
necessary.
-
Class 2 – while
better than
Class 3 and
4, endeavor
to spend as
little time
in Class
2 as
absolutely
possible and
only as much
as is
absolutely
necessary.
-
Class 1 – spend
as much time
as you
possibly can
in Class 1.
So how,
exactly do you
do that?
Individual
results may
vary, but it
starts by asking
the question, “What
would make this
a Class 1
activity?” Often,
just by asking
the question our
thoughts start
a-poppin’ and a
path will make
itself known.
“What WOULD Make
This a Class 1
Activity?”
-
Class 4 – Criticizing
a direct
report late
Friday
afternoon.
-
Class 3 – Sending the
feedback via
email on
late Friday
afternoon so
you don’t
have to face
his reaction
-
Class 2 – Sitting
down with
the employee
to share
your constructive
feedback when
you’re so
busy that
you feel
pressured to
‘dump-and-run’
or ‘wrap it
up,’ too
quickly.
With just a
bit of thought
and planning,
you can easily turn
this into a
Class 1
activity:
-
Class 1 – Properly
prepare for
the
conversation
and schedule
it for a day
and time
that’s
mutually
doable for
you both,
where you
both can sit
down and can
talk through
your
concerns,
discuss
corrective
actions,
gain
commitment,
and schedule
a follow-up
meeting to
assess
progress,
without
either of
you feeling
rushed or
defensive.
See what I
mean? Now YOU
try it.
What Next?
If this post
helped you learn
something about
yourself, then
great! Be sure
to share your
insight with
others as a way
of 'locking in'
your learning.
While you're at
it, I'd
appreciate you
telling them
about this blog
post and the
otherself-study
materials I've
made available
at the
LeadershipTraction
website, as
well. Thanks.
- bz
P.S. If you have
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comment about
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